It's no secret my husband and I don't get along from time to time. We probably quarrel more than most and a great majority of those arguments stem from frustration, finances, and the loneliness that accompanies a newly married couple who moves 2000 miles away from home, family and friends for the first time. This last year has been an eye opener on who we really are as individuals and as a family.
When it comes to being a family and making family decisions we are incredibly in sync. That is if we make the decision together. We are project people. We get along famously when we are concentrating on a single result together and the result always exceeds our expectations.
Whether it be making chili, decorating a room, or getting through a road trip with a two year old and one year old black lab we come together and complete the project with laughter and love and memories to spare.
As individuals we are well aware of what makes us different. But over the ten years we have been together some of the qualities that set us apart have been left by the wayside to make room for the things we thought would make us the same. I think many couples do this when first starting out. For us, the things we left behind are now the things that will bring us back together. I don't think many people get to say that.
Somehow, through a recent road trip, financial struggle, and preparing our house for the addition of another child, we have started the dialogue of planning for our future. And our visions, for the first time, are the same. We want the same things for our family and for us as individuals. It's not just a goal or where we see ourselves in a year. It's what we want ultimately and it's quickly becoming the light at the end of our tunnel here in AZ.
Now, it doesn't mean an end to all arguments but it is an end to uncertainty. And it's one very long project to work on together. And that makes me very happy.
..more to come on our plans!
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